Destination Weddings

Destination Weddings are one of my favourite types of wedding, but I might be a little bit bias. Check out Our Wedding for more details. With a destination wedding most, if not all, stress is eliminated because most places will plan everything for you. When we did ours, we planned it ourselves but that part wasn't hard either. The aspects that were difficult were upsetting people, cutting people out and having to sacrifice a lot of aspects included in a typical wedding. 

I highly recommend destination weddings because you can celebrate for longer with fewer people. It has become a trend these days to take your friends on your honeymoon as well so having a week long celebration was trendy. 

A lot of times we dream about destination weddings and how nice it would be to get married under a palm tree on the beach without the threat of rain. We often scare ourselves out of it based on other people's opinions. So much time is spent during wedding planning season trying to please everyone else. I spent more time thinking about what everyone else would think and if they would have fun. Along with if it was okay to get married in a barn than I did thinking about what I would like to do on MY day. Too often we make our wedding day about everyone else than we do ourselves when in actuality the day wouldn't be happening without you.

When we decided to change our wedding to Hawaii, we sat down and asked ourselves what was most important to us. Our decision was that telling each other how much we love the other and starting our marriage was what the day should be about. We upset a lot of people by moving the wedding, but we also had the respect and support of everyone who mattered to us. We were not able to take everyone we wanted to, but the group we did take was incredible. Before your change all your wedding plans you need to ask yourself what are the most important parts of a wedding, in your opinion and make a decision from there. There are a few things I would recommend considering before you change all of your plans. First, are your pre-existing bookings refundable. If not you will have an even bigger decision to make but most places are pretty good with refunds and are understanding about weddings. The second thing you need to evaluate is your budget if taking your wedding to a different country is completely out of your budget I would stick with your current plans. However, we found that it was cheaper to go to Hawaii, and we were even able to help a few people out. Thirdly, you need to analyze traditions. Is your family traditional in the sense of weddings and is that something you would like to carry on with? If your family isn't then all the power to you, sister. If your family is, and you don't want to be anymore, you need to have an honest and very loving conversation with your family and see where that goes. Fourth, timing - you need to think about who you will invite and think about how long it will take them to save for a trip like this. Wilson and I gave very little notice so we absorbed the extra costs to bring our families. Destination weddings are so fun and definitely recommended by me. I love the idea of not caring what others think about you but also in the same way think about the people closest to you might hope for.

No, I don't think you should plan your wedding for everyone around you but a sensitity to other's feelings is definitely an asset. Weddings are about celebration, joy and families growing and changing so try to be considerate but do what you feel is right. Celebrate your heart out but do it the way you want. 

 

Marika Lin

Surrey, BC, Canada